Fell EE tio and the Sexualization of Little Boys.

   In college, as a SOAN major, I read my fair share of the sexualization of women and in particular little girls, but I never believed that the same happened with little boys until the other day when the older son asked me, as we were sitting in the car, what "fell EE tio" was. I said, "WHAT?" Thinking I must have heard wrong, until he told me that some guys at school had told him it meant threesome in Spanish. Only then did I realize that fell E tio was actually fellatio.
   Oh God!
I told him it was something that nobody ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER did. EVER. I was so freaked out I couldn't think of anything else to say. This kid isn't even twelve yet and he already knows about threesomes. And a whole host of other sexually explicit things that I most certainly did NOT know when I was his age. And at the risk of sounding like a fuddy-duddy, what are parents teaching their kids these days? He interrogated me for several minutes, pressing me to tell him what it really meant, and then when we got home he just went to his personal Mac laptop and looked it up on Google and then came back and told me what it was.
   Sex Ed.pre-pubescent style.
I've never heard him say anything sexist, although, every time he sees a woman of color in shorts he does think she's a prostitute,  but the Googling thing did get me to thinking: If little girls are dressing and acting as women younger and younger, isn't it logical that little boys are getting their questions answered, as well as prompted by all the stuff bombarded by them on the internet? I know both kids have seen playboy magazines, they know what the Playboy mansion is, they just...know.
     I guess what really freaks me out is the fact that he seems so sexual so young. A few weeks ago he told me that his greatest desire in life is to see a girl go jogging without her shirt on.Is he physically able to appreciate this as a sexually developed human is? Or is he just reacting to all the extra-sensory direction in his life (his vast and hardly limited access to the internet, school, the media...) that tells him this is what this is, and this is how you--a boy--responds to it? I'm prone to thinking it's the latter, which is sad, because an early, in-adept, immature and crude education on sex is what breeds sexist and demeaning behaviors in our society. And now I'm seeing it in action.

Bad Ass Nanny

 I, Mission Imp (not my real name for obvious reasons) put the Bad, in bad ass nanny. Literally, I haven't felt the love from a lot of parents. But all kids love me! I started this blog just because I needed somewhere to vent, and I wanted some feedback. Do other nannies experience the same problems as me? Feel the same way I do? Or is this just a me thing, cause I gotta be honest, I'm feeling kind of alone. And just to clarify; it's normally not issues with the children I have, it's issues with the parents. I've seen some other nanny sites and blogs but it all seems geared towards the parents! "My nanny is so bad! I expect to come home to a clean home and happy children yadda yadda yadda!" I feel like parents have unreasonably high expectations of their nannies and their children.
    But before I go any further, I feel I should explain some things about myself: I haven't been a nanny for that long, but I've been working with children since I was 14, almost ten years now, in a variety of settings from camp counselor, to tutoring, to Montessori classroom assistant, so I have a lot of experience with children. I am black, (I really don't prefer the term African-American because I'm not from Africa), and currently going natural, but that's besides the point, I have a B.A. in Sociology and Anthropology and I am currently looking to get my Master's in counseling or rehabilitation psychology starting 2012. Wish me luck!
   I work mainly as a nanny/with kids because I'm good at it, and I love children. But I do NOT want to make taking care of someone else' children my life. Crude and sad I know, but that's kind of how I look at it.
    The family I work for currently have two older boys and a dog (huge plus because I love animals), the Mom works, and the Dad works but is home for pretty much the whole time I am there.
    The Family I worked for before that, both parents worked full time, I worked a 50 hour work week for two great, small kids, and a dog, and I got paid about $9.50 an hour. More on that family later.
     The issue I am having right now is not feeling adequate. I'm good with kids, and kids are good with me. But I'm a really laid back kind of girl, and things like wrestling and subsequent tears (hey, you shouldn't have tried to fight someone bigger and stronger than you, i.e. your big brother), lots of screaming and yelling, (you're a kid, you have lots of energy, I can dig it ), the occasional (or in this case, daily) temper tantrums just don't bother me. But they bother the Dad. Who rushes in to the rescue every single time. Yells at the older son, comforts the younger son...then gives me this look like, "Why didn't you do this?" I would have, if you hadn't been here, obviously basking in your role as the savior, so why would I? Why should I take the lead, if, before I even have the chance to open my mouth to snap "Cut it out!" you're rushing in on your white horse? And you like it?
    Feedback would be appreciated. As Perplexed is now my middle name.